I
really enjoyed the talk to the Fathers in Israel because that will one
day apply to me and it tells me what my mindset needs to be at that day
or in preperation for that day to come. It starts out saying that we
have a calling of which is great importance that we will not be released
from at any point in time. It says, "Fathers, yours is an
eternal calling from which you are never released. Callings in the
Church, as important as they are, by their very nature are only for a
period of time, and then an appropriate release takes place. But a
father’s calling is eternal, and its importance transcends time. It is a
calling for both time and eternity."
If we do not keep up to the expectation of being a good provider for our household then the Bible says, “But
if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own
house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” (1 Tim. 5:8).
A
lot of the time we see priesthood holders think that because they hold
the priesthood or that they are the patriach in the household that they
are a step above the wife, but Pres. Benson addresses that topic very
well. He says, The Apostle Paul points out that “the husband is
the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church” (Eph.
5:23; italics added). That is the model we are to follow in our role of
presiding in the home. We do not find the Savior leading the Church with
a harsh or unkind hand. We do not find the Savior treating His Church
with disrespect or neglect. We do not find the Savior using force or
coercion to accomplish His purposes. Nowhere do we find the Savior doing
anything but that which edifies, uplifts, comforts, and exalts the
Church. Brethren, I say to you with all soberness, He is the model we
must follow as we take the spiritual lead in our families.
At the end of the talk it gives 10 ideas for what fathers can do to better themselves as a father. Here's the list.
1. Give father’s blessings to your children. Baptize and confirm your children. Ordain your sons to the priesthood. These will become spiritual highlights in the lives of your children.
2. Personally direct family prayers, daily scripture reading, and weekly family home evenings. Your personal involvement will show your children how important these activities really are.
3. Whenever possible, attend Church meetings together as a family. Family worship under your leadership is vital to your children’s spiritual welfare.
4. Go on daddy-daughter dates and father-and-sons’ outings with your children. As a family, go on campouts and picnics, to ball games and recitals, to school programs, and so forth. Having Dad there makes all the difference.
5. Build traditions of family vacations and trips and outings. These memories will never be forgotten by your children.
6. Have regular one-on-one visits with your children. Let them talk about what they would like to. Teach them gospel principles. Teach them true values. Tell them you love them. Personal time with your children tells them where Dad puts his priorities.
7. Teach your children to work, and show them the value of working toward a worthy goal. Establishing mission funds and education funds for your children shows them what Dad considers to be important.
8. Encourage good music and art and literature in your homes. Homes that have a spirit of refinement and beauty will bless the lives of your children forever.
9. As distances allow, regularly attend the temple with your wife. Your children will then better understand the importance of temple marriage and temple vows and the eternal family unit.
10. Have your children see your joy and satisfaction in service to the Church. This can become contagious to them, so they, too, will want to serve in the Church and will love the kingdom.
2. Personally direct family prayers, daily scripture reading, and weekly family home evenings. Your personal involvement will show your children how important these activities really are.
3. Whenever possible, attend Church meetings together as a family. Family worship under your leadership is vital to your children’s spiritual welfare.
4. Go on daddy-daughter dates and father-and-sons’ outings with your children. As a family, go on campouts and picnics, to ball games and recitals, to school programs, and so forth. Having Dad there makes all the difference.
5. Build traditions of family vacations and trips and outings. These memories will never be forgotten by your children.
6. Have regular one-on-one visits with your children. Let them talk about what they would like to. Teach them gospel principles. Teach them true values. Tell them you love them. Personal time with your children tells them where Dad puts his priorities.
7. Teach your children to work, and show them the value of working toward a worthy goal. Establishing mission funds and education funds for your children shows them what Dad considers to be important.
8. Encourage good music and art and literature in your homes. Homes that have a spirit of refinement and beauty will bless the lives of your children forever.
9. As distances allow, regularly attend the temple with your wife. Your children will then better understand the importance of temple marriage and temple vows and the eternal family unit.
10. Have your children see your joy and satisfaction in service to the Church. This can become contagious to them, so they, too, will want to serve in the Church and will love the kingdom.
