Tuesday, September 30, 2014

"A More Excellent Way"


"After his father became ill, Vern Crowley took responsibility for running the family wrecking yard although he was only fifteen years of age. Some customers occasionally took unfair advantage of the young man, and parts were disappearing from the lot overnight. Vern was angry and vowed to catch someone and make an example of him. Vengeance would be his.


Just after his father had started to recover from his illness, Vern was making his rounds of the yard one night at closing time. It was nearly dark. In a distant corner of the property, he caught sight of someone carrying a large piece of machinery toward the back fence. He ran like a champion athlete and caught the young thief. His first thought was to take out his frustrations with his fists and then drag the boy to the front office and call the police. His heart was full of anger and vengeance. He had caught his thief, and he intended to get his just dues.

Out of nowhere, Vern’s father came along, put his weak and infirm hand on his son’s shoulder, and said, “I see you’re a bit upset, Vern. Can I handle this?” He then walked over to the young would-be thief and put his arm around his shoulder, looked him in the eye for a moment, and said, “Son, tell me, why are you doing this? Why were you trying to steal that transmission?” Then Mr. Crowley started walking toward the office with his arm around the boy, asking questions about the young man’s car problems as they walked. By the time they had arrived at the office, the father said, “Well, I think your clutch is gone and that’s causing your problem.”

In the meantime, Vern was fuming. “Who cares about his clutch?” he thought. “Let’s call the police and get this over with.” But his father just kept talking. “Vern, get him a clutch. Get him a throwout bearing, too. And get him a pressure plate. That should take care of it.” The father handed all of the parts to the young man who had attempted robbery and said, “Take these. And here’s the transmission, too. You don’t have to steal, young man. Just ask for it. There’s a way out of every problem. People are willing to help.”

Brother Vern Crowley said he learned an everlasting lesson in love that day. The young man came back to the lot often. Voluntarily, month by month, he paid for all of the parts Vic Crowley had given him, including the transmission. During those visits he asked Vern why his dad was the way he was and why he did what he did. Vern told him something of their Latter-day Saint beliefs and how much his father loved the Lord and loved people. Eventually the would-be thief was baptized. Vern later said, “It’s hard now to describe the feelings I had and what I went through in that experience. I, too, was young. I had caught my crook. I was going to extract the utmost penalty. But my father taught me a different way.”

A different way? A better way? A higher way? A more excellent way? Oh, how the world could benefit from such a magnificent lesson."

-Howard W. Hunter
"A More Excellent Way"
April 1992


Wednesday, September 3, 2014

25 Ways to Ask Your TEENS “How Was School Today?” WITHOUT asking them “How Was School Today?”

25 Ways to ask your teen how was school today




#1. Where in the school do you hang out the most? (Like a particular hall, classroom, parking lot, etc.) Where in the school do you never hang out?

#2. What would your school be better with? What would your school be better without?

#3. If you were a teacher what class would you teach? What class would be the worst to teach? Why?

#4. What was the coolest (saddest, funniest, scariest) thing that you saw today.

#5. Tell me one thing that you learned today.

#6. If your day at school today was a movie what movie would it be?

#7. Besides walking to their next classes, what else do people do in the halls in between classes?

#8. Who do you think you could be nicer to?

#9. What is your easiest class? What is your hardest class? OR What class are your learning the most in? What class are you learning the least in?

#10. If they played music in the halls at school what would everyone want them to play over the loudspeaker?

#11. If you could read minds what teachers mind would you read? What classmates mind would you read? Whose mind would you NOT want to read?

#12. If today had a theme song what would it be?

#13. Which class has your favorite group of students in it? Which class has the worst group of students?

#14. What do you think you should do more of at school? What do you think you should do less of?

#15. What are the top 3 (or 5) things that you hear people say in the halls?

#16. What do you think the most important part of school is?

#17. Tell me one question that you had today…even if it wasn’t answered….actually, especially if it wasn’t answered…

#18. What class has the most cute boys/girls in it?

#19. If an alien space ship landed at your school who would you like them to beam aboard and take back to their home planet?

#20. Who did you help today? Who helped you today?

#21. If you could be invisible for the day at school what would you do?

#22. What part of the day do you look forward to? What part of the day do you dread?

#23. What would you change about school lunch?

#24. What classmate is most likely to be arrested, made president, become a millionaire, be in movies, let loose a flock of wild chickens in the library, etc.

#25. If you had to go to only one class every day which class would it be?

#26. Tell me one thing you read at school today.

#27. If your day at school was an emoticon which one would it be?

#28. What do you think your teachers talked about in the faculty room today after school?

25 Ways To Ask Your KIDS “So how was school today?” Without Asking them “So how was school today?”

25 Ways to ask your kids how was school




#1. What was the best thing that happened at school today? (What was the worst thing that happened at school today?)

#2. Tell me something that made you laugh today.

#3. If you could choose who would you like to sit by in class? (Who would you NOT want to sit by in class? Why?)

#4. Where is the coolest place at the school?

#5. Tell me a weird word that you heard today. (Or something weird that someone said.)

#6. If I called your teacher tonight what would she tell me about you?

#7. How did you help somebody today?

#8. How did somebody help you today?

#9. Tell me one thing that you learned today.

#10. When were you the happiest today?

#11. When were you bored today?

#12. If an alien spaceship came to your class and beamed up someone who would you want them to take?

#13. Who would you like to play with at recess that you’ve never played with before?

#14. Tell me something good that happened today.

#15. What word did your teacher say most today?

#16. What do you think you should do/learn more of at school?

#17. What do you think you should do/learn less of at school?

#18. Who in your class do you think you could be nicer to?

#19. Where do you play the most at recess?

#20. Who is the funniest person in your class? Why is he/she so funny?

#21. What was your favorite part of lunch?

#22. If you got to be the teacher tomorrow what would you do?

#23. Is there anyone in your class that needs a time out?

#24. If you could switch seats with anyone in the class who would you trade with? Why?

#25. Tell me about three different times you used your pencil today at school.