Infidelity

Quote of the week: 

“thought is the father of an act. No man ever committed murder who did not first become angry. No one ever committed adultery without a preceding immoral thought. The thief did not steal except he first coveted that which was his neighbor's.” It is important to remember "For as [a man] thinketh in his heart, so is he . . . (Proverbs 23:7).”

I was very interested to find out that there are different kinds of affairs out there in the world.  I always thought that an affair is just something sexual between two individuals.  According to our studies this week there are physical and emotional affairs, but it is broken up into different categories.

The first affair is Fantasy where you have an interaction between an individual and someone that you dont personally know.  So it might between someone on a chat room, a celebrity, a character in a novel, etc... This affair is detrimental to a relationship because it sets a expectation in a partner that may not be currently present in a partner that may even be unrealistic.

Second is Visual which is a where an individual views pornographic images. This is c;assified as a physical affair more than an emotional one due to the fact that this behavior can lead to physical actions that are damaging to an individual.

The third type of affair is an emotional affair that is similar to Fantasy where it involves a attraction to someone that you personally know than has no physical interaction.  This affair is classified as Romantic.  It has the same consequences as fantasy. 

The last kind of affair is sexual classification which is classified as Sexual affair.All the other types of affairs can lead towards this type of affair if continually pursued.


Interestingly women commit more emotional affairs while men commit more physical affairs.  As well when a man finds out his spouse has cheated on him he is usually devastated due to the fact that the wife has physically betrayed him.  While the woman on the other hand feels betrayed due to an emotional bond the spouse created with someone else.

Now affairs are easier to prevent than to repair back to the state a marriage was previously in.  That is why we need to stay strongly tied to our spouses emotionally.  I think the rules should be we need to act as if our spouse wouldnt be ashamed to see any of our actions.  As well for the RMs out there that they should apply the same rules that they had on the mission when interacting with the opposite gender. Rides alone seem to be one of the number one reasons a couple commits to affairs. Try to have more individuals involved or avoid a situation if possible.